From Freddie Hammond

You’ve prayed, sacrificed, worked hard, went without, studied, kept silent, been diligent, not perfect but strived to be better, you’ve waited your turn, been passed over but stayed patient, it took you years to build little by little, you took delayed gratification over immediate pleasure, learned how to pay attention, you stay grounded and your foundation is the WORD.

You may not be perfect but again your foundation is the WORD. Now someone comes into your life in a relationship who hasn’t done these things or has these foundations. There’s an attraction, but clearly they don’t adhere or prescribe to this plan you’ve followed. Their life clearly shows that they don’t. Getting with you is a step up for them but 2 steps back for you. But in the name of LOVE you try it. They negotiate and bargain with you to loosen your standards to help them and you do and it knocks you back another step or 2 or 6.But you try in the name of LOVE. Now you reach a line in the sand where you say that’s it, and now you remember what you did and had to do to achieve all what you’ve achieved. Now you require them to come up. But they don’t because they don’t want to. They say it don’t take all that (and it does and it did) but they look at you and say the dumbest thing that could be said ‘you trying to change me and your answer should be yes’, u must change or this relationship won’t work. Stand your ground and take no more steps backward. Let them know, you will only go as far and tats it. If they have an ounce of decency and respect but don’t want to step up, they’ll leave. If they are a witch or warlock, they’ll try to manipulate you through threats, exposure and intimidation. If they are just off they’ll see you as a dream killer or someone who wanted to change them. If they have a good ground, they will see that you are the best thing for them and honour God and bless Him for putting you in their life.

Here’s the key, you are gonna get blamed for not accepting them as they are, and why should you when your life suffers for it. Believe it or not, some of them want to take you down to where they are and then leave you and dog you for being where they are. The spiritual root of it is jealousy. Let them leave, walk away from them, whatever you have to do and get your life back and you will find your centre (peace) again.